Mothers with ten hands

 A woman has to do and expected to do everything for everyone. 

Men are really very tough to handle

i cannot marry an immature man  , it's so irritating. Since I was a kid I have seen my mom eating leftover rice and rotis because no body likes to eat stale food but she my mom has to eat it as she cooked that food ofcourse nobody has told her to eat it but throwing it feels like wastage of food which is also considered bad or ashubh in culture and she really mean it  . What one should do , why a man is served like a guest and woman in the house like a server . A man ( considering not all men but most of them that I've seen) was never taught about how to do laundry , cook , clean house or do dishes , even if they try to do they just 'try' to do it and not like it's everyone's job to do for themselves. 

I really would want to make this clear to my future husband that I'm not his mother , I'm a life partner with whom we think about spending our whole life and doing a certain household work is not one's job but both's responsibility. Whenever my mom used to fall sick and she could not cook or do the dishes , it always felt like something strange has happened that day and then I had the responsibility to check if dad needs anything . It is said that a house is not home without a woman and it's sad that it is barely about that person but more about her involvement in work , caring, loving others ; like she already lost her individuality when she got married and has to spend rest of her life just doing things for others , I don't know if she really loves doing that or it just has to be like this for every mothers.

I am really afraid of all the responsibility,  about doing and handling everything alone , I was a kid too , I am someone's child , I am a human being and gender has to do nothing with this . I can cook for everyone when i really want to and at the same time I can also not cook for anyone and rest or chill whole day without any guilt .